Your Positive Potential

Don't Pick at That Scab!

(continued book excerpt, page 13)

... For any of us with any type of scar, what was there before the scar?  An open wound where the skin had been broken.  And how did the healing process begin?  We began the healing process by first attending to the injury and stopping the bleeding.  As human beings, we’ve also been gifted with the power to heal, not just physically but emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually as well... Once the bleeding has stopped and the injury cared for, the healing process begins, and a scab begins to form to protect the healing process underneath the skin.  But isn’t it just so tempting to pick at that scab?  It’s as if the itching skin is yelling, “Get it off me!”

We know, though, that if we give in to that itching and scratch it, we prolong the healing process, and in some cases, we just make the scar bigger than it would’ve been if the scab had been left alone to do its thing.  Some of us have felt that we have no control over that itching feeling during the process of healing, which could take weeks to happen, so during that time, we may have felt that we just had to—and I mean just had to—scratch that itch!  Squeeze it, tap it, rub it, wet it, moisturize it, or even hit it to satisfy that itch... our emotional wounds operate on the same principle as a physical wound trying to heal.  The more we attempt to satisfy the urge to appease that itch, the worse the situation gets, and therefore, we end up with some horrendous scars.  It’s sad but true that some of us carry deep and wide emotional wounds (scars) that may scare off potential positive relationships (and yes, I speak from experience) because not everyone we come in contact with knows how to deal with our perceived failures and childhood wounds.  Nice and caring people, including family members, friends, and acquaintances, may not know how to deal with our emotional scars, so we appear to them as hurting children in adult bodies.  We don’t live fulfilling lives because we feel that we’re not worth anyone investing their time with us anyway.

The most important point here is that there is help for the emotionally wounded, bleeding, and/or scarred individual to live a more productive and fulfilling life.  Again speaking from experience, I believe that getting the proper guidance (professional, if necessary) to bind and help heal those wounds, whether physical, emotional, or spiritual, is very important for a productive and fulfilling life.